Women Fake Orgasm Rather Than Invest in Exploring Sexual Pleasure With a Lover

Men suggest that it should be possible to educate women to be more interested in sex: “Just tell them sex is great and they’ll get it!”. This is simple brain-washing and it doesn’t work. It may pressure women into feeling that they should orgasm (so they fake or mistake orgasm) but it can never make them experience sex as a man does.

Sex is inherently a scenario where a man takes and a woman gives. Today women like to imply that they gain the same from casual sex that men do. A woman cannot ‘use’ a man’s body for orgasm but she can certainly play on his insecurities as a lover.

Some women are promiscuous simply as a form of experimentation. Women also often gain financially or politically through sex. Women enjoy casual sex, not for orgasm but, for the thrill of the chase, the compliment, the novelty and sexual ego.

Just as men are entitled to enjoy their fantasies, there will always be women who describe sex as orgasmic. For such women, their orgasmic ability is implicitly linked to their sexual attractiveness in the eyes of their partner. Other couples may prefer to have more explicit explanations for the stimuli that might cause female orgasm.

Female orgasm is a device women use to speed up sex and detracts attention from the fact that they are reluctant to engage in more extended and explicit sex play. It is vital to acknowledge the effort each partner makes and the rewards they receive.A woman invests in sex when she loves a man and when she feels appreciated by him.

The impression given by sex advice is that every woman experiences orgasm as easily and as frequently as every man does both through masturbation alone and during sexual activity with a partner. Yet Kinsey remarked on the huge range that makes up what might be considered ‘normal’ sex drive and orgasmic ability among individuals.

Sex is often presented in the context of romantic love and casual dating. Who ever heard of a young woman in love saying ‘no’ to sex? The headaches come later.

Modern surveys focus on young women because of their enthusiasm for sex. Older women may be more realistic but they are also more likely to know how to orgasm.

Why are we so reluctant to admit that relationships involve making effort that is not for our own direct benefit? Do women really want wall-to-wall intercourse from morning to night or do they actually want men to be more companionable?

What do men want? Bottom line, a woman to be amenable to sex. They also hope for an enthusiastic lover and they assume that women will be motivated by orgasm. But what if orgasm is not as rewarding for women? Women do not masturbate nearly as often as men do so we might anticipate that they may want orgasm less than men do.

Elements of domination are essential to sexual passion, for both sexes. So a woman’s lack of enthusiasm can make sex more erotic by simulating the sense of a ‘chase’.