The most detrimental play time that stay with little girls well into their adult years is what I refer to as the “Barbie World”. This world is entered when little girls receive and began to play with the very popular Barbie Doll (or any of the popular comparison dolls) the Barbie corvette, Barbie dream house, and the adorable Ken doll. Once little girls become women many of them want to emulate or duplicate the idea of the “Barbie World” into the real world. For example, once they have great friends, complete their education goals, and find themselves with a great job and car the only thing that they feel is missing to the piece of the life puzzle is their Ken, but the “Barbie World” is merely a platform for my next theory the “picket fence theory”.
The “picket fence theory” is when a young girl has believed the concept of the” Barbie World” to the point where she has subconsciously incorporated and embedded it into her real life. With this theory she believes she is supposed to have a husband, child/children, and a home to live happily ever after in. On the contrary, men are taught to act out or upon, but not taught be in touch with their feelings. While little girls are imagining their prince charming, boys are usually busy wrestling; playing with toy guns and/or video games, sports, and other referred “guy activities”, etc. It’s unfortunate that little girls are tailored to be emotional and boys are not taught to identify with their emotions because normally they are taught to down play them.
How do you communicate effectively with someone who has been taught all of their lives to not understand you? How do you convey and expect to be understood by some who is normally not taught to tap into their emotions? What can be done to bridge the gap of communication between girls and boys? Sexual education should be considered a science course and it should include information on how different sexes think and where it all derives from. With this new kind of revamped sexual education it can assist young adults in bridging the gap in communication by increasing effective communication between women and men through knowledge. As always it wouldn’t hurt to begin the process at home.
*This article does not in any way intend to offend Barbie or its makers it is only used for example purposes.